Long Distance Perspective

It’s getting late, and I should be in bed. I am missing Future Dr. B because he has been away for the last week. Long distance is both difficult and rewarding. For one – I am going to be stretching out alone in my bed tonight – my favorite thing. However, I miss his presence and our before bed conversations when he is here. I hate to admit it, but it just isn’t the same without him.

My co-worker, who knows the ins and outs of my relationship with Future Dr. B and who has heard me complain, lament and gush over all aspects of the ups and downs of long distance, sent me an article about why being in a long distance relationship is a good thing. I read the article with a degree of skepticism. However, I couldn’t have said it better myself. I agree completely with the sentiments. I think the article highlights some of the positives that come with long distance. I have gotten a lot of comments from people out there, and have read many blogs, with similar long distance situations. For anyone nervous about their current long distance relationship, hopefully the positives in communication, love, and connection transcends the distance.

Spanksgiving

In the spirit of the impending holiday, I thought I would take some time to consider all the things that I am thankful for. If you have read my previous post, you know that I am currently in a self-diagnosed “quarter-life” crisis. With that being said, as part of my treatment, I decided that it would be helpful to first start by being thankful for what I have and what has been great this year – Which has been a lot of the year! So here it goes:

1. Spending the summer with Future Dr. B – With him participating in a research opportunity, I was able to keep him in Cleveland for the entire summer. Well I guess 9 weeks in total, but it was wonderful. Definitely much better then our current far away from each other situation, and I loved every minute of it. So thank you to the gods for the perfect arrangement of that research opportunity.

2. Friend time – I have been lucky to maintain many of my friends from high school and college. Even though I really wish we all lived on the same street and hung out like lifetime movie friends – all the time, I have had some awesome times with them. I realized that not everyone has close-knit groups of friends like I do. For that, I am very thankful this year. I look on Facebook and see all of these pictures of people with tons of friends. I think, wow, I must not be as friendly as them. But then, I hear stories and hear that people envy about my close friends. They envy how they are there for me, and well we know each other. I realized more isn’t always better, and I am truly the lucky one. Thank you friends.

3. Family ties  – This has been a trying year for different elements and people in my family. I think as the year ends we are finally crossing many different difficult life events, and hopefully turning a corner. I am thankful for the change in adversity my family is facing.

4. Personal Health – I am thankful for my personal health and all the many blessing that keep me well fed, roof over my head, and happily enjoying life as I should be. As much as I want to worry about tomorrow, I am thankful for today and the fact that I a have a healthy body and mind. I need to keep remembering this more.

I guess the best way to ward off the impending winter blues and my quarter life crisis is the reflect what I am thankful for. I am going to continue to work on the thankfulness and contemplating what is next for me in 2014. Happy Thanksgiving All! I hope you take the time to consider – What are you Thankful for?